While first dates are important, second ones can be even more exciting. After all, they are a sign that things could potentially go somewhere.
The most important thing on a second date is bonding over shared interests. Try planning your date around something they mentioned liking on the first date, such as bowling or horse riding.
1. Be yourself
It’s easy to make instant judgments about a date during the first date. However, a second date gives you the opportunity to see them in a different light. It also allows you to reassess their behavior in the warm glow of a dinner candle.
During the second date, try to be as genuine as possible. Don’t puff yourself up or try to impress your date. They will notice your fakeness and it can put them off.
Taking them on fun outings like competitive activities is a great way to keep the conversation flowing. You can even suggest a wager where the loser buys the next round of drinks. This keeps the date light and fun while still allowing you to talk about deeper topics.
2. Don’t be afraid to ask questions
By the second date, you’ve usually got a good idea if your date is serious about a long-term relationship. So, it’s important to keep that spark alive by asking them questions and getting to know them better.
You could also ask them about their hobbies and interests to find out more about them. It’s a great way to bond over shared interests and show that you’re genuinely interested in them.
However, you shouldn’t ask too many questions or it may come off as invasive. If you want to make a good impression, stick to lighthearted and fun questions. For example, you could ask them about their favorite memories or what annoys them. Then, you can listen to their answers and respond accordingly. This will help to keep the conversation flowing smoothly.
3. Ask about their day
By the time you get to a second date, you’ve likely exhausted the standard “get-to-know-you” questions. Instead of wracking your brain to remember whether or not you asked about their siblings, Wright says it’s better to lean into the topics that you’re genuinely interested in learning more about.
For example, if they mentioned spending a lot of time in the gym on your first date, you could ask them for some tips or even suggest going with them to work out together. This will show that you’re genuinely interested and will make them feel like you really listen.
Alternatively, you could take them to a competitive activity such as bowling or a game of laser tag. This will also help keep the conversation flowing and will give you an opportunity to demonstrate your playful side.
4. Ask about their hobbies
The second date is an opportunity to take a deep dive into the things that matter to your date. Asking them about their hobbies, passion projects, or what scares them may tell you a lot about their personality.
Hobbies are a great way to bond with your date and also keep the conversation flowing. You can take a class together, enjoy some friendly competition like bowling or miniature golf, or even just go to the local park for a picnic.
Doing something out of the ordinary is a great way to make your second date more interesting and fun. Rollercoasters, a stand-up comedy show, or scary movies can all be exciting and help you open up to your date. You could also try taking a painting or cooking class.
5. Be honest
A second date is an important inflection point in a relationship, and you should always be honest. For example, if your date asks you about your past relationships, it’s okay to answer them, but don’t go into too much detail. It’s better to save that for your next date when you know each other a little bit more.
Similarly, be honest about what you’re looking for in a relationship. If you’re interested in a serious relationship, but your date is only interested in casual dating, then it makes sense to let them know that you’re not the one for them. Being upfront about your expectations will help you avoid any confusion or misunderstandings in the future. Plus, it’ll make for a more enjoyable date!